On Love , Death and Marriage
Everyone in the world has to face the loss of someone they love. There are countless tributes, biographies and laments written by the recently bereaved. In the best of them, the writing reaches out beyond therapy and recollection to share what Dr Johnson called “moral instruction in the art of bearing calamities”. They help those facing a similar devastation.
My wife, Marilyn Imrie, died of Motor Neurone Disease on August 21st 2020, at five o’clock in the morning. She was a drama director, a singer and an artist: mother to two girls, wife, sister, aunt and grandmother. She was seventy-two years old.
We had thirty-five years together. This is our story and the book is a love letter to her. But, as well as an account of trauma, I’d like to think that it is filled with jokes and laughter and the affectionate remembrance of a woman who was a force for good in the world, a person who thought the best of people, embraced adventure and delighted in greeting her friends - Hello, Gorgeousness! Tell me good things!
This is not only my way of reclaiming her from the last months of a terminal illness but an attempt to provide my own version of Johnson’s “moral instruction” and to offer both the consolation of sorrow and the possibility of hope in the face of despair.
Tell Me Good Things will be published by Bloomsbury in November 2022.